Tips On How To Have A Great First Date

Hey fam! 

Trust y'al are doing excellently well? I am alright too, thanks for asking *winks* 

I am super excited to share this tips on how to have a great first date with a love interest. So many

Mehn! This guy/lady is so fiiiiiiinnnnneeeee, you are not even trying to mess things up; but more often than not, that's exactly what we do....mess things up, that is. The future of many a relationship was really bright, until that first date committed MURDER. 

Although, a date that ends well might not guarantee a successful relationship, it would definitely help in leaving both parties as friends or acquaintances at the least. On the other hand, it could open one up to a world of bliss and love so true, you nearly turned blue. *cool smiley*

See what I did there? LOL!

Anyways, the tips that are mentioned in this post were gotten from Devon Franklin and Meagan Good's stint on Steve Harvey's Talk Show on their book, The Wait. I really hope it helps brings more understanding to you and finally gives you what you need to get past just that first date with a love interest. 

1. Be Open, yet Positive: This is the first thing we need to work on because this has messed me up many a time. *side-eye to all them spiritual people*

When I meet a guy who is interested, I get all excited and slid right into fantasy mode that you'd think dude already asked me to be his wife. *shame-faced* Well... that was until I realized this truth about openness. That first date doesn't mean the beginning of a relationship, so be open to accept the fact that things may not go the way you hoped for. 

Here is where staying positive is also important! Although, you have acknowledged the possibility that this date may not go as planned, your positive attitude helps you relax enough to have FUN! 

You are already committed to going on this date, you are interested in your date too; so be open to accept whichever way the tide turns on this one and have fun

2. Be Original: We make this mistake a lot in the bid to leave a great impression. The question is, if you didn't do anything to attract them but being yourself, why not stick with that?

You don't need to fake it on a date to get them interested, especially in this age where a lot of personal details are on the Internet. Chances are they probably know a lot more about you, than you realize. So it is better to stick with your amazing persona and not get things all muddled up by trying too hard. 

I'm all for cleaning up nicely and putting on makeup or getting a haircut just so you look good on the date, we just sometimes confuse looking good with being original.

To make that first date the beginning of a relationship, stick with being YOU. It's easier, less stressful and genuine. No assumed accents! No speaking out of turn just to appear cool! Et cetera

3. The Money Factor: Eiss!!! Going broke after a date has become such a norm, it not even a joke anymore. In the bid to show the lady a good time. guys just tend to overdo it. Ladies/Gentlemen, it is just a date, y'al ain't even an item yet. 

Hellurrrrrrrr!!! *like Ursula Sebastine would say*

I think the point of the date is to get to know each other and see if things can lead anywhere. It is really about the person; their interests, expectations of a relationship, their likes, dislikes, values, causes they support,....their needs basically and how it compliments your needs or not.

In the same vein, if you are not paying for dinner or whatever bill accrued on the date, please apply DISCRETION. You either wait on your date (who is paying) to order first, so you know not to order above that or just ask them to order for you. You really do not have to eat, drink or try everything just because someone else is footing the bill. 

You can spend all the money you've worked for a year and that date could still lead nowhere. Whether you like it or not, at the end of the bad date, the money you spent would hurt more than the fact that they weren't all that you expected. 

Even though, it is important to plan a great date which is tailored at ensuring both parties have a great time, it really is NOT ALL ABOUT THE MONEY!

*sighs*

I sincerely hope I've been able to effectively point to all who struggle with how to have a great date that it is not such a hard task to accomplish. 

Please share your experiences and comments in the section below, I would really like to hear from you...