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What’s good? Hope you all made it to church on sunday? Church was fabulous at my end and I am still running all that I learned through my mind.
Hey fam!
Trust y'al are doing excellently well? I am alright too, thanks for asking *winks*
I am super excited to share this tips on how to have a great first date with a love interest. So many
That picture was my friend, Esther's BBM display picture; when I saw it, tears welled up in my eyes*lol, I'm a cry baby*. The depth of the words on there was so profound that....mehn... I just
Today, I read the book of John Chapter 14 and it felt like I was reading for the first time ever. This was the part when Jesus Christ had one of His last conversations with the disciples. It amazed me how intricate the relationship between God and Jesus Christ is. This chapter was a clear cut account on how God is Jesus Christ made manifest in the life He lived on earth.
Relationships
nowadays are rife with pain, hurt and distrust rather than love, peace, a sense
of fulfillment and such beautiful harmony that tends to draw us in, in the
first place. More often, the parties leave each other broken, abused and in
serious hurt, often leading to statements like, 'all men are
pigs', 'women are just heartless gold diggers' etc. How can this be avoided?
What's the root cause of this seemingly indestructible virus creeping into our
relationships?
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One evening on my way home, I had my radio tuned to " Life issues with Chaz B" and the topic was up for discussion. Various callers and tweets and facebook posts with varying opinions.
Does it surprise you though that most women, not men, opposed the motion?
*smiles*
Social Abuse is when a person or group of persons
make you cut off from all your social network (could be social media, friends
or even family).
- Moving the
person far away, or cutting the person off from the support of friends or
family members
- Not allowing the
person to use the telephone or monitoring his/her calls
- Not allowing the
person to socialize like on social media, occasions etc.
- Claiming that the person's friends or family are "interfering"
The above
are instances to paint a clear picture in your mind of what this form of abuse is. I'm sure you all saw the movie 'Mean Girls';
where for you to be cool enough to be with a group of girls, you had to break
off from people in a cliques deemed as 'below' theirs.
Unfortunately, this doesn't happen only in the
movies or among teenage girls, it happens in all forms of relationships
'You're my
girlfriend/husband/best-friend/sister/son e.t.c! If you love me, you need to stay away
from so, so and so'
Sounds familiar, right?! This is common
especially when people are dating or married.
But wait!
Why can one not trust the opinions and judgment of loved ones? Is it protectiveness, concern, love? Or could it be for entirely selfish reasons?
Granted the effects of peer pressure could be
disastrous, but don't you think your loved ones have considerable control over
their decisions?
I think the most probable cause of this abuse is
insecurity of the 'abuser/culprit' and has nothing to do with the 'victims/abused' in this
kind of abuse. This form of abuse can only result in secrecy and distrust in
relationships. It is really hurtful and could lead to more forms of abuse, e.g Psychological Abuse, Emotional Abuse, etc.
Also, the constant monitoring, nagging and, ultimately, fights could
destroy a very health and beautiful relationship.
The popular saying "Live and Let Live"
comes to mind here. I am of the option that everyone should be allowed to relate with to relate with whom they please. Whatever lessons they learn form these relationships, be it bad or
good, will surely make them better and smarter at recognizing bad company in
the future.
*sighs*
I rest my case..
I rest my case..
#LetLive
#LoveNotHurts
#RAW
#SayNoToAbuse
P.S: This topic brought a bit of controversy at work, when my colleagues and I discussed it, please let me know your thoughts on Social Abuse
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